What is Pegging sexually?

What is pegging in sex? "Pegging" is a sexual practice where originally a cisgender woman uses a strap-on dildo to anally penetrate her cisgender male partner. The term initially referred to this specific scenario, highlighting a role reversal that challenges traditional gender norms in intimate relationships. Over time, evolving attitudes toward gender roles have broadened the term's usage to encompass most strap-on penetrative activities between partners no matter what gender.

The practice, pegging sex, while once considered taboo, is now recognized as a valid and diverse form of sexual expression. It involves a two-piece sex toy, consisting of a dildo for penetration and a harness to secure it. It's important to emphasize that sexual preferences and practices vary among individuals, and consent and open communication are crucial in any intimate activity.

In essence, pegging sex, represents a spectrum of sexual pleasure, where people with different body parts engage in activities based on personal preferences and desired sensations. It's not inherently kinky or deviant, and there's no need for shame or discomfort in exploring and enjoying such experiences.

So, who can do it?

The term "pegging" is commonly linked to sexual activities within heterosexual relationships, primarily due to its distinct gender-role reversal, where a woman takes on the role of penetrating a man. However, it's essential to recognize that many lesbian women also include strap-ons in their sexual repertoire for both vaginal and potentially anal penetration.

While pegging sex is often perceived as exclusive to heterosexual couples, it extends beyond these boundaries; same-sex couples can equally derive pleasure from this practice. Undoubtedly, pegging provides an equal-opportunity experience. In short anyone wearing a strap-on and anally penetrating can be pegging!

How does it work?

For those venturing into anal play, I strongly recommend getting a suitable toy and anal-friendly lubricant, as the anus lacks natural lubrication. Begin with toys of various sizes (with flared bases for safety) to explore preferences and comfort zones. Initiate discussions and possibly start with a finger before progressing to additional toys.

Once both partners are comfortable and interested, invest in a well-fitting strap-on. Opt for a hands-free, inclusive size for comfort, ensuring pleasure for the giver and alignment with the partner's desires. Beginners can find smaller, less intense strap-ons tailored for their comfort. Expect some trial and error in the process.

Prioritize safe and responsible practices: establish a safe word or stoplight system, communicate throughout, practice aftercare, and maintain good sex toy hygiene, including condom use when applicable.

Why is it a turn on?

Pegging sex adds an exhilarating dimension to your usual activities, driven by a shift in power dynamics. Sexologists note that this practice allows exploration of power roles uncommon in other sexual acts, presenting an exciting opportunity for women to take charge.

Moreover, pegging offers a distinctive element related to erogenous zones. According to sexual wellness experts, orgasms induced by penetrative pegging are often more intense and mind-blowing for men than traditional penis orgasms. This heightened experience is linked to the stimulation of the prostate, known as the male 'g-spot,' situated between the bladder and rectum.

For individuals with vulvas taking the lead, whether penetrating a partner with a vulva or anally, pleasure is derived from clitoral stimulation through grinding against the toy, similar to dry-humping. Some toys even feature vibrating functions, enhancing the experience. Those receiving this penetration also find it pleasurable.

Considering the brain as the most powerful sex organ, pleasure in pegging can also be derived from mental stimulation. Overall, pegging opens up new avenues for partners to explore diverse sensations and power dynamics.

How do I suggest pegging?

The appeal of pegging is a highly personal matter, some may find the taboo nature exciting, while others may find it off-putting. If you're interested in trying it, how can you broach the subject with your partner without causing them discomfort?

If your relationship already encourages such conversations, feel free to directly bring it up. For those still uncertain, consider introducing the topic organically into a conversation. Mention you heard about it from a friend or saw it referenced in something you recently watched, expressing your curiosity to explore it further in the bedroom.

How do I try pegging safely?

Having a conversation with your sexual partner about consent, boundaries, and desires beforehand is crucial. Specifically, obtaining consent from the person being pegged is essential. Safety is paramount when preparing for anal sex, given the anus's lack of self-lubrication, increasing the risk of tissue tears. To mitigate this, it is recommended to use a water-based, non-tacky lube, especially as it works best with silicone toys like strap-on dildos.

In addition, protection is emphasized during anal sex. The penetrator should wear a condom and latex gloves, serving as effective barriers against bodily fluids and bacteria. Deciding to try pegging is an opportune time to establish a 'safe word' if one is not already in place. This ensures that if either partner feels uncomfortable at any point, they can simply say the word, signalling to stop.